If the producers really cared about the participants, or the premise, and the so-called experiment or the notion of exploring further ways to bring arranged marriage into public awareness and discussion, then they would model certain of their practices based on how marriages are ACTUALLY arranged in societies where it occurs.įor instance: In how many cultures or communities do we expect arranged marriages to succeed when the matchmakers don’t know the individuals, families, histories, practices, beliefs, values or lifestyles? My guess would be ZERO. Just like all other married people, they can get legally divorced in the future, and not according to some dumb made-for-TV timeline. The biggest, most significant binding decision they make is their agreement to do this show and get legally married. It feels contrived and artificial, right after the marriage becomes legal, to immediately set the hyper focus on “Decision Day”. The pressure that these cast members experience to “make a decision” by some arbitrary date set by producers or advertisers does not reflect the timeline needed to get to know someone in real life. MAFS said they get thousands of applications each season and there is no reason that out of that pool, better matches couldn't be made for a higher success rate. When they do go off to their honeymoon a week or so later, there is already a build-up in wanting to spend time alone to know each other better and they already would have done something together (hosting family & friends). There is thoughtful time spent on working out living arrangements, how to make a home together like if the bride moves in with the groom then she could pick out new furniture or things like that. Also, the couples are not jetted off to their honeymoon right away but do things with family & friends first like host a dinner party or do a BBQ as a thank you to everyone and such. Those arranged marriages work out better because it already starts out with a mutual admiration for each other, and the couple feel more inclined to work through the issues. ![]() When wedding takes place, it's not a total surprise when they meet each other for the first time but more. It's a process but the beginning process is so important to get it right for everything else to go from there. Once everyone agrees, that person is then presented to the potential bride or groom. Essentially, they all get together and take a vote, veto or approve potential choices. Modern: matchmakers + family & friends or even people from the community all play a part in it (always thought it be cool if the audience get a say because the couples are so horribly mis-matched on MAFS). MAFS: the matchmakers (the experts) pick on their own and the bride & groom meet each other for the first time at the alter. The difference with MAFS and modern arranged marriages is the approach (calling it modern here because arranged marriages are making a comeback in modern societies like Japan where working professionals in their 30s are having a hard time finding someone on their own). ![]() All that doesn't align with the actual stats of arranged marriages where the divorce rate is actually less than 4 percent. On MAFS, most of the couples end up getting a divorce or have it annulled or even if they stay together on Decision Day, split later.
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